Category Archives: Marital Crisis and Self Esteem

What Everyone Needs to Know About Sexual Addiction and Infidelity

Most people know that overcoming addictions to food, drugs, alcohol and other substances can be very difficult. Just because it doesn’t involve a food, drug or drink, sex addiction is very misunderstood. In fact, many people scoff at the very … Continue reading

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4 Shifts you Must Make to EFFECTIVELY Deal with Infidelity

If you are like most, you feel like a Basket Case when first confronted by infidelity in your marriage or relationship. And, you typically engage in the 6 Killer Mistakes that Most Make that are Guaranteed to Prolong the Affair … Continue reading

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7 Powerful Steps you MUST Take to Recover from Infidelity

Here’s a basic outline of general steps I’ve seen thousands take over the past years as they face and recover from the affair. Briefly, here’s a skeleton, my beginning point, for the 7 steps to affair recovery. 1. You discover … Continue reading

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6 Reasons Being a Basket Case is Normal After Discovery of Infidelity

When you discover the infidelity demon in your marriage being a basket case is normal, as attested to by the fact that hundreds have come to me with their pain, confusion, rage and numbness upon discovery of their cheating spouse. … Continue reading

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Marriage advice to Keep on Track to Save Your Marriage

Marriage Advice Saving your Marriage It is difficult to maintain your self respect as you try to save your broken marriage. You easily doubt yourself, your role in the marriage and go through a litany of “what ifs.” You wonder … Continue reading

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11 Ways Worry Kills Your Marriage

Worry is fretting. Worry is bound by fearful thoughts. Worry is being nervous, uptight or anxious. Worry feels threatened. Worry is a bundle of nerves. This anxiety gets in your way. It becomes a detriment. It only contributes to more … Continue reading

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How do you Handle Emotional Distance?

These are some major coping patterns, common to the human condition. You automatically and unconsciously call upon YOUR coping pattern when life gets emotionally rough. That’s where you go. That’s what you do. And, long, long ago, it worked. Your … Continue reading

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4 Reasons an Affair or Marital Crisis Kills your Self Esteem

Nothing tears at your self esteem and sense of well being more than a marital crisis. The question is often posed to me by someone in the midst of a painful relationship upheaval: “What did I do wrong?” You assume … Continue reading

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Marriage and Loss of Freedom

Here’s the 2nd Key to Help the Emotionally Distancing, Pulling-Away Spouse or Significant Other (It might be helpful to share this with your spouse, if s/he is willing to receive.) Key #2: You Need Not Lose your FREEDOM once the “Knot … Continue reading

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A Key Healing Skill To Use In A Marital Crisis

In therapy and change theory an overarching process to help in the healing is technically called meta cognition. Meta-cognition is your capacity to enable a part of you to stand back and evaluate what you (or other parts of you) … Continue reading

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