Category Archives: Infidelity Reasons

4 Shifts you Must Make to EFFECTIVELY Deal with Infidelity

If you are like most, you feel like a Basket Case when first confronted by infidelity in your marriage or relationship. And, you typically engage in the 6 Killer Mistakes that Most Make that are Guaranteed to Prolong the Affair … Continue reading

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6 Reasons Being a Basket Case is Normal After Discovery of Infidelity

When you discover the infidelity demon in your marriage being a basket case is normal, as attested to by the fact that hundreds have come to me with their pain, confusion, rage and numbness upon discovery of their cheating spouse. … Continue reading

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Infidelity in Your Marriage: Stop the Devastation by Knowing the Type of Affair

You didn’t ever think infidelity would happen to you! But now Infidelity invades your marriage or significant relationship. The affair, the secrets, the betrayal and the loss of love and affection happened to others but not to you. But you … Continue reading

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Marriage Killers

I recently asked my readers to respond to a survey and in one word answer to the question: “What, in your opinion, is the number 1 factor that kills a marriage?” I received hundreds of responses, but for the sake … Continue reading

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The Distant Spouse is Either In or Out

Often a polarity emerges in which you are forced to decide whether you are in or out. Perhaps your spouse asks you to make that decision. Perhaps family and friends offer their opinion to either get in or walk away. … Continue reading

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Is the Distancing Spouse a Bad Person?

Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make the marriage or relationship work. You may hear frequently from your spouse or … Continue reading

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Normal People Suffer from Infidelity

You really are normal. I often reflect: What about what I do that people find so liberating and helpful? Here’s what I think it is: I help those suffering from marriage crisis to feel normal, that they are not defective, … Continue reading

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Honesty in Marriage: How You Can Heal Your Marriage by Revealing Your Infidelity

Is there a difference between revealing your infidelity to your partner and allowing him or her to find out from another person or source? Yes, there definitely is! You may think that it’s all the same, that he or she … Continue reading

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Saving the Marriage by Healing the Past

There are plenty of things that need to be dealt with when you are saving the marriage after infidelity. Although trust is a major issue that the couple needs to handle, it is not the only one. A common problem … Continue reading

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Signs of a Cheating Spouse: What You Need to Know

What are the things that you need to know to be able to tell the difference between the signs of a cheating spouse and infidelity? Extramarital affairs and sexual encounters are not done to form or experience intimacy or some … Continue reading

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