Category Archives: Infidelity Marriage

Infidelity: How Do You Get Rid of the Pain?

I don’t want to go into detail regarding the fact that you feel pain. YOU FEEL the PAIN! It is a given.  It is real. It consumes your days and destroys sleep at night. Hands down, the discovery of infidelity … Continue reading

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8 Questions to Ask Yourself When Struggling with the Pain of Infidelity

A member of my Facebook Infidelity Support Group shared a beautiful post yesterday, in which she has challenged group members to ask themselves some tough, yet important questions. This group member is someone who has come a very long way … Continue reading

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21 Life Lessons from an Infidelity Survivor

I have an amazing Infidelity Support Group on Facebook, in which members join to both heal themselves and help others heal. It’s truly a remarkable group of people. From time to time I stumble upon a post that really resonates … Continue reading

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4 Shifts you Must Make to EFFECTIVELY Deal with Infidelity

If you are like most, you feel like a Basket Case when first confronted by infidelity in your marriage or relationship. And, you typically engage in the 6 Killer Mistakes that Most Make that are Guaranteed to Prolong the Affair … Continue reading

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7 Powerful Steps you MUST Take to Recover from Infidelity

Here’s a basic outline of general steps I’ve seen thousands take over the past years as they face and recover from the affair. Briefly, here’s a skeleton, my beginning point, for the 7 steps to affair recovery. 1. You discover … Continue reading

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You’re OK Exactly Where You Are

Part of the healing from infidelity and cheating is being able to “see through” the cheating behavior as the cheating spouse’s problem. Yes, this is easier said than done; especially early in the process of healing and moving on. How … Continue reading

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6 Reasons Being a Basket Case is Normal After Discovery of Infidelity

When you discover the infidelity demon in your marriage being a basket case is normal, as attested to by the fact that hundreds have come to me with their pain, confusion, rage and numbness upon discovery of their cheating spouse. … Continue reading

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Affair Recovery: Talking about the Affair

A major road block for many couples recovering from infidelity is talking about the infidelity. Frequently one (the betrayed) spouse needs to talk about the infidelity. The cheating spouse says, “No. It’s over. Let’s not drag up the past. Let’s … Continue reading

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What is a Good Apology from the Cheating Spouse?

How do you know if your significant other is truly sorry for what s/he did? Frequently, in my coaching sessions, I hear the betrayed spouse wanting and needing to feel that the cheating spouse is truly sorry. In some cases … Continue reading

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Marriage advice to Keep on Track to Save Your Marriage

Marriage Advice Saving your Marriage It is difficult to maintain your self respect as you try to save your broken marriage. You easily doubt yourself, your role in the marriage and go through a litany of “what ifs.” You wonder … Continue reading

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