Category Archives: Infidelity and Intimacy

What Everyone Needs to Know About Sexual Addiction and Infidelity

Most people know that overcoming addictions to food, drugs, alcohol and other substances can be very difficult. Just because it doesn’t involve a food, drug or drink, sex addiction is very misunderstood. In fact, many people scoff at the very … Continue reading

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Infidelity in Your Marriage: Stop the Devastation by Knowing the Type of Affair

You didn’t ever think infidelity would happen to you! But now Infidelity invades your marriage or significant relationship. The affair, the secrets, the betrayal and the loss of love and affection happened to others but not to you. But you … Continue reading

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More than Relief in Your Marriage

It is common for you as the distancing spouse to believe that to save the marriage or break the impasse, you must settle. You must cave in. You must accommodate. You must swallow and “be nice.” You must meet his/her … Continue reading

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It’s Frightening to Truly Love

You see, to love someone and allow someone to love you is truly a risk. Loving and being loved in a genuine authentic, calm, I-can-take-a-deep-breath-and-trust-myself-with-you is downright scary for most of us. It truly is! A wise man once said, … Continue reading

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The Distant Spouse is Either In or Out

Often a polarity emerges in which you are forced to decide whether you are in or out. Perhaps your spouse asks you to make that decision. Perhaps family and friends offer their opinion to either get in or walk away. … Continue reading

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Is the Distancing Spouse a Bad Person?

Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make the marriage or relationship work. You may hear frequently from your spouse or … Continue reading

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How do you Handle Emotional Distance?

These are some major coping patterns, common to the human condition. You automatically and unconsciously call upon YOUR coping pattern when life gets emotionally rough. That’s where you go. That’s what you do. And, long, long ago, it worked. Your … Continue reading

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Emotional Connection without Talking in Your Marriage

The emotional connection or closeness you strongly desire in your marriage can happen. WITHOUT talking. A look, a facial expression, a glance, a touch or a warm movement of the body may “connect.” I prefer to use the word engage … Continue reading

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Frustration in Marriage and the Affair

A tremendous amount of frustration and resentment builds in your marriage when you believe you must squelch yourself and spend inordinate time and energy going that extra mile to meet the personal needs of your spouse. Resentment emerges as you … Continue reading

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Freedom in Marriage

Marriage can be an environment in which freedom, fun, excitement, spontaneity is cultivated. Sure, not all of the time, but even in the more difficult time you can be ready for the humor and loving support that is able to … Continue reading

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