Category Archives: Emotional Distance

How do you Handle Emotional Distance?

These are some major coping patterns, common to the human condition. You automatically and unconsciously call upon YOUR coping pattern when life gets emotionally rough. That’s where you go. That’s what you do. And, long, long ago, it worked. Your … Continue reading

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Frustration in Marriage and the Affair

A tremendous amount of frustration and resentment builds in your marriage when you believe you must squelch yourself and spend inordinate time and energy going that extra mile to meet the personal needs of your spouse. Resentment emerges as you … Continue reading

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The Intimacy Dance in a Marriage

The pursuing-distancing intimacy “dance” is played over and over again in a marriage, with the same results. Neither spouse flourishes nor experiences joy in the marriage or relationship. Every Marriage Has It. Please leave your comments below. Has infidelity been … Continue reading

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Infidelity Pain: The Key to Hurting Less

A marriage crisis brings all your pain and hurt, seemingly buried for years, screaming at you. You are in pain! You are in a ton of hurt. The pain can be incredible, debilitating and persistent: It just won’t let you … Continue reading

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Normal People Suffer from Infidelity

You really are normal. I often reflect: What about what I do that people find so liberating and helpful? Here’s what I think it is: I help those suffering from marriage crisis to feel normal, that they are not defective, … Continue reading

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Your Marriage Must Reflect Your Terms

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You can and must move ahead in resolving the impasse in your marriage by stating your terms. Your thoughts, your ideas, your observations, your opinions, your analysis … Continue reading

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You Truly Want Love in Your Marriage

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You really want to love and be loved. You truly want love in your marriage. Underneath your aloof exterior, or tough, you-can’t-touch-me act, or your constant but … Continue reading

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Think Marital Resolution

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You are encouraged or in other ways told it is important for you to “work on the marriage.” The underlying message is to shape up, meet the … Continue reading

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You are Not a Bad Person

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make … Continue reading

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Distance is a Way to Cope

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… The intent of your pulling away or distancing is not malicious or evil. Your tendency to back away is merely a way for you to cope with … Continue reading

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