Category Archives: Emotional Distance

You’re OK Exactly Where You Are

Part of the healing from infidelity and cheating is being able to “see through” the cheating behavior as the cheating spouse’s problem. Yes, this is easier said than done; especially early in the process of healing and moving on. How … Continue reading

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What is a Good Apology from the Cheating Spouse?

How do you know if your significant other is truly sorry for what s/he did? Frequently, in my coaching sessions, I hear the betrayed spouse wanting and needing to feel that the cheating spouse is truly sorry. In some cases … Continue reading

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Marriage advice to Keep on Track to Save Your Marriage

Marriage Advice Saving your Marriage It is difficult to maintain your self respect as you try to save your broken marriage. You easily doubt yourself, your role in the marriage and go through a litany of “what ifs.” You wonder … Continue reading

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Infidelity in Marriage: Key Points in Infidelity Recovery

Infidelity in Marriage: More key points about infidelity that help you through recovery. Key Point #2: Infidelity isn’t the end of the world Infidelity is discovered and it feels like your world is coming to an end. Yes, it feels … Continue reading

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Infidelity in Your Marriage: Stop the Devastation by Knowing the Type of Affair

You didn’t ever think infidelity would happen to you! But now Infidelity invades your marriage or significant relationship. The affair, the secrets, the betrayal and the loss of love and affection happened to others but not to you. But you … Continue reading

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Marriage Killers

I recently asked my readers to respond to a survey and in one word answer to the question: “What, in your opinion, is the number 1 factor that kills a marriage?” I received hundreds of responses, but for the sake … Continue reading

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11 Ways Worry Kills Your Marriage

Worry is fretting. Worry is bound by fearful thoughts. Worry is being nervous, uptight or anxious. Worry feels threatened. Worry is a bundle of nerves. This anxiety gets in your way. It becomes a detriment. It only contributes to more … Continue reading

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Marriage Crisis: Get in Control of Your Feelings

I was raised in Northwestern Illinois and the highlight of every summer was the County Fair. On Saturday night thousands would flock to the Fairground Stands to watch the Demolition Derby. In case you are not familiar, a demolition derby … Continue reading

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The Distant Spouse is Either In or Out

Often a polarity emerges in which you are forced to decide whether you are in or out. Perhaps your spouse asks you to make that decision. Perhaps family and friends offer their opinion to either get in or walk away. … Continue reading

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Is the Distancing Spouse a Bad Person?

Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make the marriage or relationship work. You may hear frequently from your spouse or … Continue reading

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