Category Archives: Dr. Huizenga’s Blog Posts

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How do you Handle Emotional Distance?

These are some major coping patterns, common to the human condition. You automatically and unconsciously call upon YOUR coping pattern when life gets emotionally rough. That’s where you go. That’s what you do. And, long, long ago, it worked. Your … Continue reading

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Emotional Connection without Talking in Your Marriage

The emotional connection or closeness you strongly desire in your marriage can happen. WITHOUT talking. A look, a facial expression, a glance, a touch or a warm movement of the body may “connect.” I prefer to use the word engage … Continue reading

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4 Reasons an Affair or Marital Crisis Kills your Self Esteem

Nothing tears at your self esteem and sense of well being more than a marital crisis. The question is often posed to me by someone in the midst of a painful relationship upheaval: “What did I do wrong?” You assume … Continue reading

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Infidelity Pain: The Key to Hurting Less

A marriage crisis brings all your pain and hurt, seemingly buried for years, screaming at you. You are in pain! You are in a ton of hurt. The pain can be incredible, debilitating and persistent: It just won’t let you … Continue reading

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Normal People Suffer from Infidelity

You really are normal. I often reflect: What about what I do that people find so liberating and helpful? Here’s what I think it is: I help those suffering from marriage crisis to feel normal, that they are not defective, … Continue reading

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Your Marriage Must Reflect Your Terms

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You can and must move ahead in resolving the impasse in your marriage by stating your terms. Your thoughts, your ideas, your observations, your opinions, your analysis … Continue reading

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The Distant Spouse: I Must be Romantic or Sexy

You, as the pulling away spouse, may be requested to be more “romantic” or “sexy.” The request may be direct: “I want you to be more romantic or sexy,” or you pick up from the need system of your spouse … Continue reading

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Signs of a Cheating Spouse: What to Watch For in Your Partner

Studies have shown a growth in the number of people engaged in extramarital affairs, both in men and women. About 80% of individuals have indulged in an affair at some point in their marriage. This may seem like a high … Continue reading

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Drawing the Line on Internet Cheating?

Where does one draw the line or cross the line of internet cheating or infidelity. Explore what readers have to say: Why is there so much porn out there! I consider myself to be a very liberal person, but my … Continue reading

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Internet Fantasies and Cheating

More comments from readers. Note the pain and ambivalence in the last reader. The fantasy of it all, and the ease with which one can “pretend” to be anyone at all without face to face contact or daily interactions as … Continue reading

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