Infidelity Recovery: What is it with Men?
By Dr. Huizenga - The Infidelity Coach
I've worked intensively with hundreds of couples over the past 25 years and, of course, you will not be surprised to know that more women than men are "open" to marital therapy and talking about relationships in general.
Most men reluctantly enter the realm only if they "have to." Their marital world usually needs to be in dire straits before they give their assent.
Here are some observations about this phenomenon:
1. Men think they are inadequate when it comes to expressing feelings or inner thoughts. And, they assume this is what marital therapy is all about. They perceive the woman as the expert in this realm and they assume that they will be in the "one-down" situation when it comes to working on the relationship. And, of course, no man wants to be one-down.
2. Men usually internalize. That is, they work through, or think through, a situation or problem. No one may know what is happening between their ears. Men usually do not have a need to "talk out" a problem or situation. And, of course, working on a relationship is about "talking it out." At least that is what grocery store magazines and talk show hosts say.
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This article is part of a series of articles written by Dr. Huizenga. He responds in practical and heart-felt ways to pressing issues such as:
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46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair
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Extramarital Affair: Their Sex is not "Always Hot"
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Day of Discovery: I'm a Mess! Do I Need Meds?
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Infidelity: Why the Need to Know is so Strong
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Signs of Infidelity: My Marriage Made Me Do it
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Emotional Infidelity: A KEY Tactic to Save the Marriage
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Sexually Addicted? Ten Important Questions to Ask
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Infidelity Recovery: What is it with Men?
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