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Glad you are here. Feel free to add your questions or comments.
Bobby (to All):
Bobby (to All):
Hello everyone
Bobby (to All):
Bobby (to All):
Dr. Bob thank you for taking the time to do this.
To All:
To All:
My pleasure, Bobby…
Bobby (to All):
Bobby (to All):
yes
Scott (to All):
Scott (to All):
yes
CSB (to All):
CSB (to All):
yes. thank you!
AJM (to All):
AJM (to All):
Can everyone hear Dr. H?
Bobby (to All):
Bobby (to All):
yes ajm
Deborah (to All):
Deborah (to All):
yes
Scott (to All):
Scott (to All):
images
Bryant (to All):
Bryant (to All):
why did she keep going back? Was he better
Bobby (to All):
Bobby (to All):
You get to a point where i thought im over it then yes the images just pops in
Bobby (to All):
Bobby (to All):
then ager sets in once again
Scott (to All):
Scott (to All):
yes
Scott (to All):
Scott (to All):
sure
Tracy (to All):
Tracy (to All):
It
Deborah (to All):
Deborah (to All):
spouse chose his sex addiction over treatment, his counselor told him our marriage was toxic and he left, and now verbally abuson and
CSB (to All):
CSB (to All):
i’ve realized the same thing. My partner is at times also a trigger
[ Waiting for name ] (PRIVATE):
How common is abusive behaviour from a WS. To this day, the flashbacks/nightmares etc from the abusive behaviour is worse then the affair it self.
CSB (to All):
CSB (to All):
same here scott
Bobby (to All):
Bobby (to All):
yup
Deborah (to All):
Deborah (to All):
being enough.
CSB (to All):
CSB (to All):
yes yes yes!!! not meeting your partner’s needs
Bryant (PRIVATE):
Bryant (PRIVATE):
Why did she keep going back to him? Was he better?
Laura (to All):
Laura (to All):
Mornings very difficult, really miss him but feelings aren’t mutual, he’s doing nothing to work towards marriage and restoration. Limited communication. Very painful and sad. Trying not to contact or initiate contact, very difficult
AJM (to All):
AJM (to All):
Emotional Affair – pain is that the problems continue to come into focus as we are trying to get through them as well as the other person is not out of the picture (business colleague)
CSB (to All):
CSB (to All):
my partner and i are well on our way to recovery after 16 mos but there are days when I am just so so sad. I hate bringing up the past but at times I can’t help it. I’ve accepted the reality of the affair and that it wasn’t personal but it’s hard to let go. I look at him am filled with love, empathy but also loss.
Deborah (to All):
Deborah (to All):
How do I stop nightmares?
Tracy (to All):
Tracy (to All):
It’s been 2 years, 3 months, 3 weeks, 5 days since first D-Day. Every day I envision her with her APs. I think about where I failed. If I had done things differently, she would not have cheated to begin with. If I had been able to move forward better following her first affair, she would not have cheated again and again. Her repeated cheating has proven that I am not good enough. She has filed for divorce. My life has been destroyed. No marriage, no job, no home, no vehicle. I am the embodiment of failure.
Bryant (PRIVATE):
Bryant (PRIVATE):
this was a revenge affair
Sarah (to All):
Sarah (to All):
you just said an affair brings up powerfull themes that have not been resolved in our lives? could you elaborate on that idea?
Lana (to Organizers):
Lana (to Organizers):
why can’t he be nice and civilized why the passive aggressive behaviour … why keep pushing the buttons that hurt
Bryant (PRIVATE):
Bryant (PRIVATE):
Its been 2 years to this day and she continues to lie
Lana (to Organizers):
Lana (to Organizers):
why can’t he just say I want ….
Laura (to All):
Laura (to All):
yes
CSB (to All):
CSB (to All):
charge neutral!
CSB (to All):
CSB (to All):
follow Dr Bob’s charge neutral advice
CSB (to All):
CSB (to All):
thanks again
Deborah (to All):
Deborah (to All):
thanks
AJM (to All):
AJM (to All):
Thank you!
Ceccanti (to All):
Ceccanti (to All):
thank you
Scott (to All):
Scott (to All):
really appreciate your time dr. bob
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