It is never an easy situation to be in when you are going through a crisis of divorce or break up. But the things you need to get through a crisis like this are easy to come by, and you don’t have to look very hard because they are already within you.
These things are honesty, courage, faith and most importantly, self-love. Having these things with you and allowing them to steer you in the right direction will help you focus and build your new life.
Honesty requires you to open yourself up to the world and allow yourself to share what is happening in your inner world or inner life with other people. Being open about what you are feeling about your crisis of divorce allows the people around you like your friends, family and especially your children to open up as well and share with you how they are feeling instead of keeping everything on the inside. Identifying those feelings and naming them specifically is a good start that will eventually lead to healing yourself and those around you.
Courage is what you need to drive you to take a step forward every day toward a new life away from your crisis of divorce. Courage pushes you to move on from the pain and stresses of leaving a past relationship and going on with your life.
Faith is knowing and believing that everything you are going through will end sooner or later, and that you will be able to get through this crisis of divorce. Believing this enables you to get through every day, knowing that you can provide for yourself and your children everything that you need.
And lastly, self love, the most important of all these things, is being able to have fortitude and kindness and acceptance for yourself and for your children, even during the worst of days. Be good to yourself, cut yourself some slack and remember that you do not have to prove anything to anyone. Live every day for yourself and your children, no one else, because no one else deserves your love and attention during a crisis of divorce.
Keep these things with you, and take them and practice them daily. Being honest, having courage and faith, and loving yourself will bring you the happiness you are hoping to have after a divorce crisis or a break up. Continuing to exercise these things will eventually make you realize that you already have the peace and strength to go through the rest of your life past this crisis of divorce you are having now.