How do you view conflict in your marriage? Do you welcome and acknowledge it when it has to happen, or do you avoid it completely?
Do not be afraid to dig deep and have conflict in your marriage to deal with the issues you and your partner are facing. A lot of people believe that if you are in a relationship with the “right” person, that everything will just fall into place, that everything will be easy. But that is simply not true. Every relationship, no matter how good, needs work and you will have conflict in your marriage sooner or later. There is no such thing as an easy relationship. And those who think there is are the one who usually end up going from one relationship to the next because they become too afraid to go through the difficulties that each relationship has.
Everyone has their own way of dealing with problems, crises, conflict and trials in their lives, and we’ve pretty much done these things by ourselves our whole lives. So when we get into a relationship with someone, we have to adjust and learn how to do those things with our partner instead of just by ourselves.
You might look at conflict in your marriage as something that should be avoided even during times when it is all you want to do, especially at the beginning of the relationship because they don’t want to ruin the peace. But don’t think that all conflict will bring to your marriage will be negativity.
These trials, crises, troubles, problems and everything else that can create conflict in your marriage are not there to break you down and tear your marriage apart. They are there to help you grow, to develop into husbands and wives worthy of your partners, and to help create a deeper more meaningful relationship. But this will only happen when it is done right. Confront your partner, but don’t attack him or her – there is a huge difference between these two. Talk to your partner and let him or her know what is bothering you. Trust that your partner will listen to what you have to say and not take it in a negative way. Remember, not all conflict is bad. Conflict in your marriage can actually help it grow stronger and your trust in each other grow deeper.