Yearly Archives: 2012

Distance is a Way to Cope

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… The intent of your pulling away or distancing is not malicious or evil. Your tendency to back away is merely a way for you to cope with … Continue reading

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The Distant Spouse: I Must be Romantic or Sexy

You, as the pulling away spouse, may be requested to be more “romantic” or “sexy.” The request may be direct: “I want you to be more romantic or sexy,” or you pick up from the need system of your spouse … Continue reading

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The Distant Spouse: I Don’t want to Talk

Words can control, confuse and hurt. If you are the reluctant spouse, you may have a big problem with “talking.” In our culture a huge emphasis is placed upon “talking.” Those who are most verbose and “communicative” seem to dominate, … Continue reading

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Emotional Distance in a Marriage – Personal Needs and Frustration

You are lead to believe, are you not, that one of the primary purposes of marriage or a relationship of significant emotional involvement is to meet personal needs? Once married or in a significant relationship, your partner will meet your … Continue reading

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Marriage and Loss of Freedom

Here’s the 2nd Key to Help the Emotionally Distancing, Pulling-Away Spouse or Significant Other (It might be helpful to share this with your spouse, if s/he is willing to receive.) Key #2: You Need Not Lose your FREEDOM once the “Knot … Continue reading

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Help for the Emotionally Distant Spouse

Keys to Help the Emotionally Distancing, Pulling-Away Spouse or Significant Other… You really are NOT a Schmuck If you are the reluctant spouse that is pulling away, wants emotional distance and is unsure, I want you to feel better: no … Continue reading

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Jealousy After Infidelity: Healing Yourself and Your Relationship

“Jealousy becomes a part of the relationship after infidelity even when you don’t want it to or even when you aren’t aware of it. Couples who were not easily jealous of the people who were around their partners a lot … Continue reading

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Honesty in Marriage: How You Can Heal Your Marriage by Revealing Your Infidelity

Is there a difference between revealing your infidelity to your partner and allowing him or her to find out from another person or source? Yes, there definitely is! You may think that it’s all the same, that he or she … Continue reading

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Saving the Marriage by Healing the Past

There are plenty of things that need to be dealt with when you are saving the marriage after infidelity. Although trust is a major issue that the couple needs to handle, it is not the only one. A common problem … Continue reading

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Signs of a Cheating Spouse: What You Need to Know

What are the things that you need to know to be able to tell the difference between the signs of a cheating spouse and infidelity? Extramarital affairs and sexual encounters are not done to form or experience intimacy or some … Continue reading

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